Since there’s still plenty of disagreement and/or misconception over what exactly moirallegiance is, I’m adapting my post on MSPA Forum’s Shipwwright topic.
What happened was there was a brief debate over whether humans can feel pale, black, and ashen feelings. While I agreed that black and ashen feelings aren’t something we can actually feel, pale feelings is a different matter.
I would like to point you to the "Triangular Theory of Love
For those not in the know, here’s a brief explanation. There are three different aspects of love: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. Intimacy comprises of the sense of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bonding. Passion is sexual attraction. Commitment is the decision to remain with another person over the short term as well as shared achievements and plans with the other over the long term.
As you can see on the chart, each of the different kinds of love on the triangle is comprised at least one of these aspects.
Matespritship obviously fits into any of the 4 loves that contain Passion (Infatuation, Fatuous, Romantic, and Consummate). I’ve noticed in the story that those three loves have actually popped up whenever flushed feelings are involved; Sollux<3Feferi is Romantic love, Equius<3Aradia is Fatuous love (with black vacillation, but since blackrom doesn’t work on this chart, I’m ignoring it for our purposes), and Vriska’s brief flush crush on Kanaya is of course Infatuation.
Unfortunately, the only story example of Consummate love I can think of is Signless<3Disciple being mentioned as having love that transcends the quadrants. Hopefully we’ll see at least one more centric example than that later.
Moirallegiance fits pretty well with Companionate love. This is the sort of love that happens between family members (ideally), couples in long-term marriages where there is no longer any passion, and very close friends. Basically, your feelings for for that person is strong enough for you to want to be there for them no matter what. You love them very very much, but not in the erotic way. Heck, I would argue that is is the sort of love that happens between an asexual couple, but that’s something for another place in another time.
All you have to do is add in the “balance and enhance” aspect and you’ll have a good healthy moirallegience. Pacification is not as centric as people tend to think; it’s just a part of the balance side, though by no means is the only part.
tl;dr: Humans do have an equivalent to pale feelings per the Triangular Theory of Love.
Click here for more information on the Triangular Theory: http://www.hofstra.edu/pdf/community/slzctr/stdcsl/stdcsl_triangular.pdf
EDIT: Someone on the forums pointed out the possibility that finding a moirail could be a natural biological urge for trolls and if that were the case, humans can’t feel pale emotions.
To which I answer that suspect that if there’s any biological urge on the trolls’ parts, it would be similar how a human would seek the company of another human. I know this is considered a psychological thing, but the thing is, everything psychological is also biological. Also, to say that humans do not have natural non-reproductive romantic urges does not explain what goes on in asexuals.
We asexuals are incapable of feeling sexual attraction to other people. This doesn’t mean we don’t have a sex drive, but we are incapable of directing them at anyone. However, except in the cases of aromantics, we are still perfectly capable of feeling romantic attraction to other people. And if you love a person enough, you’ll naturally feel compelled to stop them from doing anything harmful to themselves or others. This is what seems to be the case with moirallegiance.
I would also like to add that moirallegiance looks a lot like STRONG familial bonds in that it involves two parties that love each other enough to make sure they don’t act destructive to others or themselves, or just plain keep each from doing something with disastrous consequences. Of course, I’m not saying moirails necessarily love each other like we’d love say our parents or siblings, but the romantic love is still there. They just don’t feel anything erotic towards each other and feel compelled to keep each other safe and happy. Just like us asexuals. ;)